Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Narcissistic abuse is an insidious ("proceeding in a gradual, subtle way, but with very harmful effects") form of emotional, physical, sexual and psychological abuse. This is detrimental to an individual's mental health simply due to the fact that no-one besides the victim usually knows what is happening behind closed doors. 

Narcissism is a term that has been brought to many people's attention and can be used to categorize someone incorrectly. Narcissistic abuse is not simply someone who cheats on you or who hurts your feelings within a relationship. 

Narcissistic abuse runs much deeper than that. This abuse is insidious to the point where the victims of such abuse lose a sense of fact over fiction, they carry the heavy burden of feeling worthless and are constantly walking on eggshells, sacrificing usually everything to maintain the sense of peace within their relationships or homes. 

Major depression, anxiety as well as extreme suicidal ideation form part of the abuse that leads to the inability to maintain who you once were. Narcissistic type persons require that you sacrifice who you are and what you believe in, in order to suit them. This leads to a form of idol worship which God forbids. This happens unbeknownst to the victim due to the manipulation and lies fueling the narcissists plans of wanting constant adoration, compliance, unrealistic and unfair expectations as well as servitude. 

When we fall into idol worship, we sacrifice our hearts, minds and souls to please whomever or whatever we want to keep happy. This then leads to burnout, resentment and ultimate hatred. 

The victims of this type of abuse find it extremely difficult to leave the relationship due to the constant accusations of being called "crazy", "jealous" as well as the gaslighting, degrading, isolation, lies, manipulation and constant feeling of worthlessness. Financial abuse aids the narcissist in isolating and further emotionally abusing their victims, furthering their dependency on them in order to prevent their victims from leaving them. 

Finding the strength to leave this type of relationship is found in receiving empathy as well as gaining the knowledge of self-worth back. This is done through trusting in and relying on God through the belief in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour to renew your self-worth and confidence in who He created you to be outside of the torment of the narcissist. 

Counseling equips you with a safe space to discuss the abuse with someone who understands the various masks of the narcissist and how these impacts and affects you on a daily basis. Counseling also provides a space where you are able to receive empathy as well as Biblical truth about the Love God has for you through Christ Jesus as well as the practical advice He gives about abusive marriages, relationships and families and how to deal with them. 

Here is what God says about evil people: 

"There are six things which the Lord hates,

Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him:

Haughty eyes, a lying tongue,

And hands that shed innocent blood,

A heart that devises wicked plans,

Feet that run rapidly to evil

A false witness who utters lies,

And one who spreads strife among brothers." 

Proverbs 6:16-19

"Do not associate with a man (or woman) given to anger.

Or go with a hot-tempered man (or woman)" Proverbs 22:24

"Do not eat the bread of a selfish man (or woman),

Or desire his (or her) delicacies;" Proverbs 23:6 

"Do not enter the path of the wicked

And do not proceed in the way of evil men (or women)." Proverbs 4:14

If this is what you are experiencing, please do make an appointment to walk with Christ into healing.